How To Have Sex After Marriage - Wednesday October 17

how to have sex after marriage
adam and sharmila (3/10)
21.00–22.00

Continuing tonight is the frank series that explores the sexual problems facing married couples. Three sexperts take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. In tonight’s instalment, the experts come to the aid of Adam and Sharmila. Over the course of ten days, Anjula, Catherine and Sam will confront the couple’s relationship issues, offer them seduction techniques and send them on a second honeymoon to rekindle the flames of their passion.

Sharmila and Adam met four years ago over the internet and became good friends. Several months later, their friendship blossomed into a passionate romance full of adventurous sex in exotic locations. They were married within the year in two lavish ceremonies in England and Malaysia, but they have since slipped into a tedious domestic routine that has seen their sex life nosedive. “When it comes to sex now,” explains Sharmila, “we just get to the point… and that’s it.” The couple now hope that Anjula, Catherine and Sam can help them turn their relationship around, before it is too late.

The first step for the experts is to force Adam and Sharmila to face up to the extent of their problems by making them rate each other out of ten in three significant areas of their relationship: emotions, attractiveness and sex. “I’d love you to be as honest as possible,” advises Anjula. After pep talks from Sam and Catherine, Adam and Sharmila face each other and reveal their scores, and it emerges that there is much work to be done.

Once they have confronted their problems, Adam and Sharmila are taken to separate flats where Sam and Catherine help them consider their roles within the marriage. Using lists and cards to create visual interpretations of the pair’s functions, it becomes clear that Adam does far more than his wife around the home. Though Adam earns the money, Sharmila controls their finances and seems unwilling to trust her husband with anything important. “I think she is afraid of losing control,” concludes Catherine.

In order to address Sharmila’s need for control, Catherine shows her subject how tough her life could be if the roles in her marriage were reversed. Sharmila is taken to her ‘new home’ where her new –somewhat chauvinistic –‘husband’ presents her with an apron and orders her around. After fetching him a number of drinks, cooking his dinner and washing up, Sharmila only snaps when she is asked to perform a foot-rub. Once the role-play is over, Sharmila begins to realise how her behaviour in the home must be affecting her husband. “I just felt really small,” she reflects.

Elsewhere, Adam is taken for an adrenalin adventure to enable him to get more in touch with his masculine side. “He needs to draw on his inner caveman,” says Anjula. To this end, he is put through his paces across a tough assault course in the middle of a forest. Though he is initially afraid, Adam conquers his fears and completes the course. However, his next task pushes him way out of his comfort zone: Adam is taken back to the apartment to learn the art of talking dirty from a female phone-sex worker. This proves to be a real test for the painfully shy Adam, but he eventually rises to the challenge and impresses his mentor.

Sharmila is also given a real test when Catherine takes her to a sex consultant to learn some interesting new foreplay techniques. She is then given a mantra to repeat in front of the mirror in order to build her self-confidence and help her consider herself as a sexual being. Will she be able to release her ‘inner-temptress’?

After a week of separation and hard work, both Adam and Sharmila are beginning to open up and address their core issues, but there is still a long way to go. Could an emotional reunion in Greece – the location of their honeymoon three years earlier –be enough to make the sparks fly once more?

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  • candy

    i have been married for 2 years but until now still havent make love with my husband. i am still virgin.. We dont know the reason behind this but it seem like our sexual feeling is getting loose day after day.. We even try meeting up with gyene doctor but seem unsuccessful. can you please advise us?

  • candy

    i have been married for 2 years but until now still haven’t make love with my husband. i am still virgin.. We dont know the reason behind this but it seem like our sexual feeling is getting loose day after day.. We even try meeting up with gyene doctor but seem unsucessfull. can you please advise us?

  • candy

    i have been married for 2 years but until now still havent make love with my husband. i am still virgin.. We dont know the reason behing this but it seem like our sexual feeling is getting loose day after day.. We even try meeting up with gyane doctor but seem unsucessful. can you please advise us?

  • Jo Curtis

    My name is Joanne and I work on “How to have sex after marriage”. I’d love to have the opportunity to talk to you about your relationship. Please feel free to call me on: 01752 727479 or email: joanne.curtis@twofour.co.uk

  • leema

    i am married for almost an year. but we have sex once in a month. once it was in three months. my husband seems to have less intrest in sex although i am upto it very much. he provides me with various excuses ot avoid sex. i feel worthless and unattractive although i know i am not. pls help me.

  • Smilla
  • Anonymous

    I agree with the fact that we should all wait till marriage and I am waiting.
    but what could happen if we don’t.
    Cause I don’t want 2 be like a 30 year old virgin, cause no guys like me, (im not exactly pretty) so I don’t want to wait till im old enough to be a mum, so what exactly is the big deal with this?

  • Anonymous

    we have been married for 18 months now but i am still a virgin. the issue is 1. my husband is never intrested 2. if he is interested then till date he has not been able to penetrate he basically mastrubates with me and tats it it is over for him. 3.after havin met eith a gyene he says he has no issues or he is not understanding what the issue is. according to him everything is normal between us. please advice.

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