How to Have Sex After Marriage

how to have sex after marriage
mark and tracey (6/10)

Continuing tonight is the frank series in which three experts take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. In tonight’s instalment, the partners in need of help are Mark and Tracey Niemer –a Rochdale-based couple whose marriage is on the brink of collapse.

Australian-born Mark and wife Tracey have been together for over nine years and live in a quiet residential suburb of Rochdale. After a chance meeting on an American summer camp, they fell in love, toured the world together and eventually tied the knot. But after settling in the UK, their relationship is in danger of going down under.

Mark, who runs his own driving school, describes himself as a perfectionist. Whether it is stacking pots and pans in height order or making the bed with precise hospital corners, Mark’s controlling nature is putting a strain on Tracey, who is often on the receiving end of Mark’s criticism. For Tracey, a lack of self-confidence and a negative body image are the factors affecting her end of the relationship. After losing six stone in just six months and dropping ten dress sizes, Tracey was left with excess skin around her belly which now serves as a lasting reminder of her former size-22 body. She feels unsexy and uncomfortable in any clothing that exposes her midriff and pushes Mark’s hand away should he try to touch her.

To reignite Tracey’s body confidence, resident expert Catherine Townsend takes her to meet top burlesque performer and pin-up girl Bunny Warren. In the decadent surroundings of the Café de Paris and with the help of a professional make-up artist, Tracey is given a lavish makeover, before performing a live striptease to an eager audience. There are baby dolls, corsets and stockings aplenty as Tracey becomes sex kitten Trixy Divine.

While Tracey gets to grips with her body, Mark is brought face to face with six models who are keen to tell him that his controlling nature and negative comments are doing nothing for his marriage. Will the confrontation make Mark see the error of his ways and learn to compliment his wife?

Sex has never been adventurous in Mark and Tracey’s relationship, so the next task for the sexperts is to introduce some much-needed fun and passion back into the couple’s love-making. Sam gives Mark a crash course in all things sex – from toys, dildos and latex outfits to positions and butt plugs. Mark is then invited to take part in a live sex phone-in on the radio as a guest expert. Will he remember enough to hold his own in such a nerveracking situation?

Tracey, meanwhile, has the passion for adventurous sex but lacks the know-how. With the help of two erotic actors and an abundance of practical information from Cat, Tracey is taught a variety of new sexual positions guaranteed to spice up even the dullest of sex routines. Whether on the sofa, over the balcony, in the bath or in bed, each position fits in with the CAT –or ‘coital alignment technique’ –a method used to ensure both partners reach orgasm simultaneously.

After ten days of therapy, it is clear that the Niemers have made a great deal of progress, but there is still a long way to go. Can Anjula, Cat and Sam keep the dream of a great relationship and a fabulous sex life alive for their students?

how to have sex after marriage
naomi and jamie (5/10)

Continuing tonight is the frank series that explores the sexual problems facing married couples. Three experts take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. In tonight’s instalment, the team comes to the aid of Naomi and Jamie, whose love life has stalled as Naomi has lost all interest in sex while Jamie feels emasculated at home.

Jamie and Naomi have been married for three years. Since the birth of their two children, their once fulfilling sex life has taken a nose dive. They are now sleeping in separate bedrooms and are in danger of splitting up if matters do not improve.

Naomi wields the power in the relationship as she is the breadwinner and runs the house like a military operation. Jamie, meanwhile, feels inferior to Naomi, is utterly lacking in self-confidence and thinks that his wife no longer fancies him.

With regards to their sex life, Jamie still sees sex as an extremely important part of their relationship –but Naomi says she can live without it. Having never experienced an orgasm, Naomi feels that there is no point to sex and wants any intercourse to be over with as soon as possible. Sexually frustrated Jamie has lost the art of how to romance Naomi and takes any affection he receives from her as a chance to initiate sex.

Anjula, Cat and Sam get to work rebuilding Jamie and Naomi’s faltering marriage by encouraging Naomi to start trusting Jamie and treating him more like a husband than one of the children. Meanwhile, an emasculated Jamie is sent to Frontiers – a ‘man’ course designed to bring his inner caveman to the fore.

Naomi’s libido is given the kiss of life as she is shown the best techniques to enhance her chances of having mind-blowing orgasms. And Jamie learns what women really want when some highly attractive ladies visit his apartment and explain the true art of seduction.

With Naomi and Jamie’s marriage heading down the divorce route, will Anjula, Sam and Cat be able to show them the importance of intimacy in a marriage and enhance their bedroom antics?

how to have sex after marriage
john and debbie (4/10)

Continuing tonight is the frank series that explores the sexual problems facing married couples, as three experts take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. In tonight’s instalment, the team comes to the aid of John and Debbie, a duo whose fairytale romance gave way to emotional and sexual frustration just two years after their marriage.

When John and Debbie met five years ago, there was an instant attraction and they were married just five months later. “It was a fairytale,” recalls Debbie. “I was on cloud nine,” adds John. Two years of wedded bliss followed with lots of exciting sex, but their relationship today tells a different story. Once a keen footballer, John has since given up sport and turned into something of a couch potato. “We don’t have sex, we don’t talk… we don’t do anything together,” explains a frustrated Debbie. She now feels emotionally and sexually ignored, and often writes angry notes to her husband, leaving John feeling insecure and under pressure. Now, with their marriage in jeopardy, the couple have come to Anjula, Sam and Catherine for help. Over the next ten days, they will be in the hands of the experts as they attempt to save their marriage and reinvogorate their sex life.

The first step of the programme is for Debbie and John to face up to the extent of their problems by rating each other across three significant areas of their relationship: emotions, appearance and sex. The scores are shockingly low and cause the couple some upset, but the exercise is an essential part of confronting the issues at hand. The pair are then taken to seperate apartments where they will remain throughout their therapy.

A flagging sex life is often the result of deeper emotional problems, so the experts decide to tackle this area of the couple’s relationship before anything else. They begin with John who Anjula says has become “passive in his own life.” In order to give him a reality check, Sam shows him his own gravestone which has been mocked up in the local graveyard. “This experience will make him feel like he’s got a second chance,” explains Anjula. “He can now become the man he wants to be.”

Debbie is also given a shock when she is presented with an alternative vision of the future in the form of some video footage showing John meeting, seducing and marrying another woman. The footage is only role-play, but it has the desired effect on Debbie: “I just feel really angry,” she says. “It should be me!”

Once the couple have realised what could happen to their relationship if they do not act soon, the therapy can change direction. “Now we need to concentrate on getting them to have great sex again,” says Anjula. After putting him though a strict exercise regime, Sam takes John on a masterclass in tantric sex. With the help of an expert in the field and two willing models, John is shown a number of tricks and techniques to make sex last for hours. “I’m looking forward to trying this out,” he announces.

Debbie, meanwhile, is given a unique opportunity to introduce variety into her sex life, by directing her own porn movie. In the capable hands of a top female porn director and with the help of two actors who will play herself and her husband, Debbie creates a visual guide for John that will show him exactly what she wants out of sex. “It was an experience I don’t think I’ll ever forget,” she says when the filming is over.

After a week of separation, Debbie and John are to be reunited on a second honeymoon in Portugal, but not before each is given a professional makeover to make them look their best. Has their time in the hands of the sexperts equipped them with the skills they need to allow them to have sex after marriage once more?

how to have sex after marriage
adam and sharmila (3/10)
21.00–22.00

Continuing tonight is the frank series that explores the sexual problems facing married couples. Three sexperts take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. In tonight’s instalment, the experts come to the aid of Adam and Sharmila. Over the course of ten days, Anjula, Catherine and Sam will confront the couple’s relationship issues, offer them seduction techniques and send them on a second honeymoon to rekindle the flames of their passion.

Sharmila and Adam met four years ago over the internet and became good friends. Several months later, their friendship blossomed into a passionate romance full of adventurous sex in exotic locations. They were married within the year in two lavish ceremonies in England and Malaysia, but they have since slipped into a tedious domestic routine that has seen their sex life nosedive. “When it comes to sex now,” explains Sharmila, “we just get to the point… and that’s it.” The couple now hope that Anjula, Catherine and Sam can help them turn their relationship around, before it is too late.

The first step for the experts is to force Adam and Sharmila to face up to the extent of their problems by making them rate each other out of ten in three significant areas of their relationship: emotions, attractiveness and sex. “I’d love you to be as honest as possible,” advises Anjula. After pep talks from Sam and Catherine, Adam and Sharmila face each other and reveal their scores, and it emerges that there is much work to be done.

Once they have confronted their problems, Adam and Sharmila are taken to separate flats where Sam and Catherine help them consider their roles within the marriage. Using lists and cards to create visual interpretations of the pair’s functions, it becomes clear that Adam does far more than his wife around the home. Though Adam earns the money, Sharmila controls their finances and seems unwilling to trust her husband with anything important. “I think she is afraid of losing control,” concludes Catherine.

In order to address Sharmila’s need for control, Catherine shows her subject how tough her life could be if the roles in her marriage were reversed. Sharmila is taken to her ‘new home’ where her new –somewhat chauvinistic –‘husband’ presents her with an apron and orders her around. After fetching him a number of drinks, cooking his dinner and washing up, Sharmila only snaps when she is asked to perform a foot-rub. Once the role-play is over, Sharmila begins to realise how her behaviour in the home must be affecting her husband. “I just felt really small,” she reflects.

Elsewhere, Adam is taken for an adrenalin adventure to enable him to get more in touch with his masculine side. “He needs to draw on his inner caveman,” says Anjula. To this end, he is put through his paces across a tough assault course in the middle of a forest. Though he is initially afraid, Adam conquers his fears and completes the course. However, his next task pushes him way out of his comfort zone: Adam is taken back to the apartment to learn the art of talking dirty from a female phone-sex worker. This proves to be a real test for the painfully shy Adam, but he eventually rises to the challenge and impresses his mentor.

Sharmila is also given a real test when Catherine takes her to a sex consultant to learn some interesting new foreplay techniques. She is then given a mantra to repeat in front of the mirror in order to build her self-confidence and help her consider herself as a sexual being. Will she be able to release her ‘inner-temptress’?

After a week of separation and hard work, both Adam and Sharmila are beginning to open up and address their core issues, but there is still a long way to go. Could an emotional reunion in Greece – the location of their honeymoon three years earlier –be enough to make the sparks fly once more?

how to have sex after marriage
bobby and chloe (2/10)
21.00–22.00

Continuing tonight is a new series exploring the sexual problems facing married couples. Three experts in the field of sex and relationships take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. In tonight’s edition, Anjula, Catherine and Sam come to the aid of Canadian couple Bobby and Chloe whose sex life has collapsed after just five years of marriage.

Canadians Bobby, 34, and Chloe, 32, first met when they were teenagers and were instantly attracted to each other. “It was love at first sight,” recalls Chloe. Nine years later they were married in their dream ceremony in Las Vegas –a day they both cherish and a night to remember. “The sex on our honeymoon was fantastic,” says Bobby. But just five years later, the couple’s relationship is a very different story –on the rare occasion it does happen, sex is passionless and predictable.

The intimacy and confidence problems from which Bobby and Chloe suffer have caused their sex life to grind to a halt, and now threaten to destroy their marriage. Anjula and her team of sexperts have one week to turn the couple’s sexual fortunes around, before it is too late.

Before Bobby and Chloe can begin their therapy proper, they must first address the issues that are preventing them from having a healthy sex life. To this end, Anjula brings the pair together and asks them to rate each other on a scale of one to ten in three significant areas of their relationship: emotions, appearance and sex. “This must be everyone’s worst nightmare,” says a nervous Chloe. Both parties find the task daunting, but the results are a good indication of the dire state of the couple’s relationship. When the couple’s scores are revealed, each has given the other very low ratings in all three areas –leaving the experts in no doubt as to the size of the task in hand. For the coming week, Bobby and Chloe will remain seperate as they move into their own apartments for therapy – their only friends will be Sam and Catherine.

On the first full day of treatment, the experts turn their attention to the uptight Bobby who Anjula thinks must be made to feel vulnerable in order to come to terms with his own shortcomings. Sam takes him aside and shows him some photographs that appear to illustrate an illicit meeting between Chloe and another man. Though Sam quickly explains that the images were staged, the method shows Bobby what could happen if he were to let his relationship problems get any worse.

The first step in Chloe’s treatment is to boost her self-confidence. “I think that Chloe has body image problems,” explains Anjula. In order to address this issue, Catherine has a surprise for Chloe –a room full of naked women of all shapes and sizes. Catherine hopes that being confronted with so many real women confident enough to bare all will show Chloe that her body is perfectly normal.

Catherine then shows Chloe a life-size silhouette of a woman and asks her to sketch what she imagines her own body outline to be. Having drawn a woman way bigger than the image before her, Chloe is shocked to learn that the silhouette is actually her own. “I don’t believe it’s me,” she says. “I don’t see that at all.” “I know,” reassures Catherine, “but you will.”

The following day, the experts focus on getting Chloe and Bobby to have sex again. In order to help Chloe feel sexy, Catherine takes her for a lesson in lap dancing. Meanwhile, Sam gives Bobby some hints in sensual massage with the help of a female volunteer. Both parties are pushed way out of their comfort zones, but the treatment seems to work. “Bobby and Chloe are changing before our very eyes,” says Anjula.

At the end of an emotional week of intensive therapy, Bobby and Chloe are sent back to Las Vegas to renew their wedding vows and rekindle their relationship at the scene of their former sexual triumphs. Have Anjula and her team managed to recapture the past and allow Chloe and Bobby to have sex after marriage again?

how to have sex after marriage
rick and megan (1/10)
21.00–22.00

Starting tonight is a brand new series exploring the sexual problems facing married couples in a modern society rife with social and emotional pressures. A trio of experts take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. Tonight’s opening edition features Rick and Megan, whose love life has ground to halt in the face of difficulties at home.

For many married couples in the UK, sustaining a sex life is one of the most challenging problems they face. Each week, How to Have Sex After Marriage takes a couple whose relationship is on the brink of disaster and forces them to face their problems head on. The couple are asked to rate each other out of ten in three very personal categories: emotions, appearance and sex. They then work individually with the experts to improve their scores, before being reunited with their partner in a dream location on a romantic second honeymoon. But will they have learned how to have sex after marriage again? For many of the participants, the experience could make the difference between a happy marriage, and no marriage at all.

Rick and Megan from Laceby in Lincolnshire are in desperate need of help to reignite their flagging love life. Together for seven years, the couple have been beset by challenges in the home: they both have children from previous relationships, and their one and only child together, Charlie, was diagnosed with a heart defect soon after his birth six years ago.

Since then, the couple have stopped work to look after Charlie, and the strain of caring for a sick child has had its inevitable effect on their sex life. Megan has lost her self-confidence and stays busy in order to keep her anxieties at bay; while Rick feels emasculated since leaving his job, and spends most evenings in the pub – before returning home to make some misguided attempts at seduction.

Fortunately, help is at hand from the How to Have Sex After Marriage team. Anjula Mutanda is a consultant psychological therapist with a range of TV credits including ‘This Morning’ and ‘Doctor, Doctor’. She brings her experience to bear alongside columnist and self-proclaimed ‘sexual adventuress’ Catherine Townsend, who has written at length about her many varied sexual encounters. Rounding off the team is Sam Van Rood, an Australian dating expert with a wealth of experience in teaching people how to flirt, date and maintain a relationship.

Anjula, Cat and Sam get to work rebuilding Rick and Megan’s sex life by encouraging Megan to relax and learn the value of time to herself with a trip to a sensory deprivation centre. Will the gentle, lapping waters of a flotation tank help Megan find her inner calm and banish her anxieties?

Rick, meanwhile, is sent to charm school to learn the art of seduction and work on his broken and ineffectual chat-up lines. He is then introduced to a special method hailed as the ‘holy grail of foreplay’.

With their marriage on the line, will this crash course in sexual techniques be enough to help rekindle Rick and Megan’s old passion?

how to have sex after marriage
rick and megan (1/10)
wednesday, 21.00–22.00

Starting this week is a brand new series exploring the sexual problems facing married couples in a modern society rife with social and emotional pressures. A trio of experts take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. Wednesday’s opening edition features Rick and Megan, whose love life has ground to halt in the face of difficulties at home.

For many married couples in the UK, sustaining a sex life is one of the most challenging problems they face. Each week, How to Have Sex After Marriage takes a couple whose relationship is on the brink of disaster and forces them to face their problems head on. The couple are asked to rate each other out of ten in three very personal categories: emotions, appearance and sex. They then work individually with the experts to improve their scores, before being reunited with their partner in a dream location on a romantic second honeymoon. But will they have learned how to have sex after marriage again? For many of the participants, the experience could make the difference between a happy marriage, and no marriage at all.

Rick and Megan from Laceby in Lincolnshire are in desperate need of help to reignite their flagging love life. Together for seven years, the couple have been beset by challenges in the home: they both have children from previous relationships, and their one and only child together, Charlie, was diagnosed with a heart defect soon after his birth six years ago.

Since then, the couple have stopped work to look after Charlie, and the strain of caring for a sick child has had its inevitable effect on their sex life. Megan has lost her self-confidence and stays busy in order to keep her anxieties at bay; while Rick feels emasculated since leaving his job, and spends most evenings in the pub – before returning home to make some misguided attempts at seduction.

Fortunately, help is at hand from the How to Have Sex After Marriage team. Anjula Mutanda is a consultant psychological therapist with a range of TV credits including ‘This Morning’ and ‘Doctor, Doctor’. She brings her experience to bear alongside columnist and self-proclaimed ‘sexual adventuress’ Catherine Townsend, who has written at length about her many varied sexual encounters. Rounding off the team is Sam Van Rood, an Australian dating expert with a wealth of experience in teaching people how to flirt, date and maintain a relationship.

Anjula, Cat and Sam get to work rebuilding Rick and Megan’s sex life by encouraging Megan to relax and learn the value of time to herself with a trip to a sensory deprivation centre. Will the gentle, lapping waters of a flotation tank help Megan find her inner calm and banish her anxieties?

Rick, meanwhile, is sent to charm school to learn the art of seduction and work on his broken and ineffectual chat-up lines. He is then introduced to a special method hailed as the ‘holy grail of foreplay’.

With their marriage on the line, will this crash course in sexual techniques be enough to help rekindle Rick and Megan’s old passion?

how to have sex after marriage

Coming to Five is a brand new series exploring the sexual problems facing married couples living in a modern society rife with social and emotional pressures. Each week, relationship psychotherapist Anjula Mutanda, dating expert Sam Van Rood, and sex writer Catherine Townsend take a couple with a non-existent sex life and try to put some passion back in their bedroom. For many of them it could make the difference between a happy marriage, and no marriage at all.

It is tough emotional journey which begins when the couple are forced to face their problems head on and rate each other out of ten in three very personal categories: emotions, appearance, and sex. After the shock of having to face the truth, they then work individually with the experts on improving their scores.

These brave and honest couples will be put through the mill emotionally as they learn new techniques and gain practical insight into how to spice up their love lives. Finally, they are reunited with their partner in a dream location on a romantic second honeymoon. But will they have learnt how to have sex after marriage again?

How to Have Sex After Marriage explores the very modern problem of stressed-out spouses who are too tired for love. Each week, therapist Anjula Mutanda help couples put the passion back in their sexless marriages.

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